Of all the nerve-wracking events you can go through in life, a first date with someone new (hopefully someone you’re really attracted to as well!) has got to be in the top ten (along with public speaking!). Chances are, while you are on that date, you’ll be nervous as hell no matter how laid back you are normally. If you are a clean freak, you’ll probably be checking your teeth out to make sure there isn’t any broccoli stuck between them (even though you’ve only had ice cream on the date).
This article will outline some basics for the first date and how to have a good chance of a successful date. It’s outlined in a series of rules, so do yourself a favour and follow them all!
Rule 1: Choose an activity you enjoy
On the first date, you should do an activity that you honestly enjoy Hope this goes well for the first time. If you choose an activity that you hate but you think your date will enjoy, your body language may give up the ruse you are trying to pull. However, if you do something you like, your attitude will be great without you worrying about it (honesty, anyone?), and you won’t come across as a little sulk! Also, if you follow this rule, at least one person will be having a good time on the date. Don’t like Chinese food? Well, don’t eat it!
Rule 2: Choose and activity that is within your budget
The worst thing you can do is to try to pretend that you have loads of cash on the first date by spending heaps on extravagant things on the first date. Why? Because it will be expected for EVERY date after that! Then, when the cash starts to dry up, you’ll look cheap and you’ll soon find out your date preferred your wallet over you. The best bet is to start small and work your way up. Why spend heaps of money on something that may not last beyond the first date? Save your money and spend more when you are certain the other person likes you (like maybe for a romantic wedding?), and not your wallet.
Rule 3: Do something where you won’t need new clothes
Are new clothes ever comfortable the first time you wear them? Usually not, as they tend to bunch or even rip when you aren’t expecting it. You’ll come across as much more relaxed if you are wearing clothes you are already comfortable in (but still look presentable and appropriate, and you can spend more time concentrating on your date than wondering if you’ve spilled red wine on your new and expensive $150 white shirt.
Rule 4: Go somewhere where you can talk without being thrown out
I know it seems rather cliche to go to a movie for a first date (and I’m guilty of it numerous times!), but good conversation on a first date will almost certainly guarantee a second date. How can you have a good conversation with your date if you are constantly being shushed by people around you? If in doubt, a walk through a park is always a good place
Rule 5: Go somewhere that is easy to get to
You’ll find that if your first date involves a long bus/train/car ride, you are running the risk of using up our tolerance for the other person (or of the other person for you!). Unless you are already comfortable with the person, avoid hard-to-get-to places.
There you have it. Five simple rules for choosing the first date. However, as the old line goes, “Wait! There’s more!”, I’ll be putting up another article showing five more rules that build on these first five rules, so watch out for that one! But, if you can’t wait or your upcoming first date is fast approaching (ie you should have left 15 minutes ago!), try putting these to the test.